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Dad and Mom, Embrace Your Children. The Church Can Hug Too.

Dad and Mom, Embrace Your Children. The Church Can Hug Too

by Joshua M. Wallnofer

This is a long title for a blog that would not have needed to be written in past generations. I would like to begin with an observation. I have noticed in pastoral ministry and family counseling that the power and influence of physical touch, in particular appropriate hugs, embraces, and affirmations, have rapidly dwindled in the modern era of exposed abuse and online connectivity. I can only prophetically fear that even the minimalist handshakes will disappear with the fears of spreading contagions due to our current struggle with COVID-19. Continue reading Dad and Mom, Embrace Your Children. The Church Can Hug Too.

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An Urgent Plea To Fellow Pastors Six Months Into COVID-19

This is not a painless blog to write.  Mainly, because there are many pastors that I love, men that I feel are more accomplished, seasoned, and knowledgeable than me, whose ministries have greater influence, who will diverge with what I am about to propose.
There have been no easy answers, instantaneous fixes, and absolutely no consensus on how to pastor during a pandemic, or how to advance the worship of a congregation in response to the current challenges and panic we are encountering. All this to say, I do not stand in judgment of those who disagree, I instead plea with my friends, colleagues, and fellow shepherds to consider another way forward.

An acquaintance on social media recently posted,

“You guys think things are bad now in 2020? Wait until you see our nation without church until 2021”

I imagine this kind of statement comes in response to those following the lead of “megachurch” pastor Andy Stanley who recently made an announcement that his 38,000 attendees will not be gathering in person until at least 2021. Sad to me, at least five percent of pastors say they will follow this course.

I urgently plead with you to reconsider following such advice for multiple reasons…. Continue reading An Urgent Plea To Fellow Pastors Six Months Into COVID-19

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How Not To Do Your Marital Counseling

HOW NOT TO DO YOUR MARRIAGE COUNSELING

Professing Christians love to squander their pastors time. They will show up to marital counseling for weeks or even months with no inclination to put any effort or change forth. It is simply an empty gesture of toxic exhaling for self gratification.

When they feel like they have festered long enough in the quagmire of contamination they have created, rather than expend any energy to disinfect the mess, or even break a light sweat seeking God’s renewing grace, they’ll simply jump ship, change houses, swap mates, and say there was no hope. They may even have the audacity to blame the counselor for not fixing in hours what they birthed together in a lifetime. Continue reading How Not To Do Your Marital Counseling